Multitalented!

Multitalented Me, back in the day!

I can say, with only a modicum of braggy, that I have been called “multitalented” on occasion. Raising five kids required several skillsets for me, some of which involved...

Excellent food management for our babies: Gerber’s (food in) and Pampers (food out)

Decent high-level organization: except for school calendars. I was constantly caught unawares by the teacher in-service days, when I would yank the kiddos from their blissful slumbers, only to learn there was NO school.

and

Mediocre psychological counseling: “Mommy, Is Santa/Easter Bunny/Tooth Fairy REAL?” “Well, what do YOU think, honey?” “I don’t KNOW. That’s why I’m asking YOU!” “Go see what Daddy thinks!” 

 

Throughout my three brilliant careers, I continued to be quite “multi.” In theatre, I could memorize and perform a children’s play in a matter of hours, (though I’d forget everything I’d crammed immediately afterward). As a church worker, I could run Vacation Bible School while prepping for an overseas youth mission trip, planning a women’s retreat and writing a children’s sermon at the same time. Now, as a freelance writer, I’m article-writing and newsletter-ing and devotion-publishing and personal essay-teaching to beat the band.

 

So I do have certain multitalents. But I am small potatoes, it seems, compared to many famous others! For instance:

 

Margot Robbie can tattoo people!

Christopher Walken can tame lions!

Pierce Brosnan is a fire-eater!

Teddy Roosevelt was a stilt-walker!

Geena Davis is an archer who tried out for the 2000 Olympic team!

 

But the prize goes to (I’m sure you guessed) Charles Gates Dawes, Vice President under Calvin Coolidge! Chuck (I like to call him Chuck), in addition to his many VP duties, received a Nobel Prize for his important work on post-WWI reparations. And what's more--Mr. Dawes was also a hit songwriter! Let me clarify here. Chuck did not himself complete a work of genius comparable to “Hound Dog” or “Love Me Do.” HOWEVER, he did compose the tune (“Melody in A Major”) in 1911, that was later gussied up with lyrics by Carl Sigman, then recorded in the 1950s as “It’s All in the Game” by legendary crooner Tommy Edwards. “IAITG” actually hit the top of the charts for a hot minute! Vice President of Pop, that’s Charles Gates Dawes!

 

I’m tempted to give up at this point. These celebs are just too, too randomly gifted!

 

But I will not end my quest to be America's Top Multitalent! I have a few years left, the good Lord willin’, to nurture some wonderful NEW abilities. I can see these talents involving walker maneuvering, medicine bottle juggling, and the Guinness World Record for longest continuous recital at Thanksgiving dinner of “Things that were better in the 1970s, including disco music and disco fashion." If I get very ambitious, I will add "Things that were better in the 1960s, when I was a young child, but I’ve seen pictures of Woodstock so I get the gist."

 

What are YOUR multitalents, dear readers? I’d love to hear about them! Aren’t we amazing?

Tempting Fate

That's me!
 (photo by James Wainscoat on Unsplash)

I’m such a chicken that it’s honestly amazing I haven’t sprouted feathers. Even reading about the exploits of extreme sportsfolk makes me break out in hives. When forced to watch the Indianapolis 500, say (which as the spouse of an Indy native has come up in the past), I clutch my rosary beads as the race cars hurtle at breakneck speed around the track.

 

I have also endured: 

 

*driving Sheridan and Rose to go skydiving, then frantically scanning the horizon until I spied their chutes descending. My fave part was signing the papers releasing Skydive Philadelphia of any responsibility should my offspring go splat. Update: they did not go splat.

*merely watching the video of Evan, Rose and Julie’s “fun” trip to the Big Island in Hawaii. They relished poking at hot lava on a volcano with sticks, making a twisty-turny 2 AM drive up to the Mauna Kea observatory, and jumping off a steep, rocky cliff into deep water. 

*witnessing Aiden and Peter running towards, and then somersaulting over, the family room furniture. “I see you! Good job, boys!” I carol through clenched teeth and with squinting eyes, as they barely clear the glass-topped coffee table and flip onto the sofa.

 

Here’s what really cements my status as Top Clucker: I think I deserve lots of credit for BRAVERY in these cases, even though all I did was watch.

 

Over the decades I know I’ve missed many an adrenaline rush. I have never walked a high wire, or washed windows on a skyscraper, or gone spelunking. I never trained to be a Navy SEAL, nor did I make any attempt to swim the English Channel or climb Everest. Tempting Fate, for me, involves eating cheese two days past the sell-by date. 

 

But hey! I’ve almost made it to age 69! If I’m ever going to break out of my rut, now’s the time! Fate? Are you still with me? Or have you long ago abandoned me due to extreme boredom?

 

Therefore, the Year of Our Lord 2026 will (might!) see me:

 

Driving my car after sunset (at least during the 20-30 minutes of dusk that follow). I will only drive a block or so, but it should be exhilarating).

 

Wading into the ocean UP TO MY KNEES. I have promised my grandsons that I would one day cavort in the waves with them. In a few years they will be far too mortified by my existence to wish for such a spectacle, so carpe diem!

 

Leaving the pan of baked ziti on the counter for an hour and FIVE minutes, then serving it. I will make sure I have 911 on speed dial and get stomach-pumping lessons first.

 

Let my fellow oldsters tap into their inner Evil Knievel! I dance to the beat of my own, timid drum, and am proud in advance of the risky business in my future!

 

Would any of you like to go ice skating this winter? I’d be happy to ...

drive you. Before sunset, of course.

Sheridan and Rose skydiving!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Slanguage Arts

While I’m “hep” to the latest “lingo,” I know to stay in my conversational lane. Aiden has brought the wonderful world of 2025 middle school slang to our household, with vocab including: "bussin’ "(delicious—NOT big orange buses), "rizz" (charisma—like his Nana? Nah), "low-key" (doing something half-heartedly, like homework) and "cringe" (awkward, embarrassing—like Nana saying ANY of this). Oh, and there’s “6 7” (pronounced six seven), which is either NBA star LaMelo Ball’s height, the song “Doot Doot (6 7)” by Skrilla, or something else entirely. I’d feel pretty silly talking this way! I’m seriously only tempted to use “skibidi” because I have a thing for nonsense words, and “skibidi” is literally a “nonsense word.”

 

Instead, I’m studying the more age-appropriate “in” words and phrases to be found on cooking shows and in the New York Times food section. Am I artfully arranging a platter of scrambled eggs, artichokes, beef jerky and blueberry muffins for my guests? That’s an “anything-cuterie board” to you! “Umami” has been around the block a few times, yet still manages to sound both nouveau and pretentious whenever it’s written or uttered. “Umami” is a flavor profile that would describe mushrooms, miso, Parmesan cheese and soy sauce—kinda fermented (one might even say a bit “off”). I am SO tired of this or that gourmet/gourmand pronouncing a dish “full of umami flavors!” Whatever happened to “yummy” or “tasty” or “not half bad”? Scraping the bottom of the barrel (barrel of...sardines, perhaps? How umami!), we come to the words “swicy” (sweet+spicy) and “swalty” (sweet+salty). Who SAYS things like that, without sounding just like Elmer Fudd? 

 

Then there’s fashion! One can look “lit” and “fire” (call 911!) when one is "flexin’" or "drippin’" one’s new “fits” (wearing new clothes). When one improves one’s appearance, that’s a “glow up,” and if the glowing goes well, you’re now “snacc” (attractive, not a bag of Doritos). Sadly, I find just typing these words to be very "cringe." I’m never going to tell a fellow fashionista that she “slays.” No, I will fall back on: “you look elegant, or cute, or like you just left the gym.” That last one is me, by the way, who never goes to the gym, but still always captures that disheveled, even “swalty,” look.

 

I guess my slanguage is still stuck in the 1980s ("Bodacious"? "Radical"? "Gnarly"?) Or not. Maybe I’m more in sync with the 1970s ("Copacetic"? "Dorky"? Bummer?) Not quite. How about the 60s? The 50s? Hmmm. I rarely say “Dullsville,” “Out of Sight,” OR “Groovy.” 

 

It is with a shock that I realize my preferred slang words hearken back to the 1920s and 30s, long before my natal day. “Bingo,” “Fave,” “Snazzy,” and “Gunky,” are all “Boffo” in my book! If that dates me, so be it. I’ll let people think I look “boffo” for a 90 year old.

 

I can’t imagine Dimitri's slanguage as a teen in the 2040s, so I won’t try.

 

Guess I’ll just “23-skibidi.” Toodle-oo!

My peeps, circa 1924 (that's my beautiful Nana on the left)!

Letting Them

Too bad we didn't have any fun at the party 😀

I may be the last living person who has yet to read Mel Robbins’ gigantic bestseller/attitude adjuster Let Them. But I do overhear its wisdom discussed everywhere, to the point that all someone has to say these days are the magic two words “let them” and their companions will immediately nod in enthusiastic recognition of the brilliant Robbins theory. If I understand her thesis correctly, we will be much happier when we accept how little control we have over the other people in our lives. When we “let them” be slobs, rude, or generally obnoxious, and focus on what we CAN control (ourselves and our responses), we unlock the door to inner peace. 

 

This is one of those “why didn’t I think of that, write it in a book, and make a mint?” times, because I have definitely thought of it, and then lazily neglected to do any further research (not even researching where to find a pen and paper to jot it down). And variants of “let them” abound, from my mom’s laissez-faire child rearing methods (“Scribbling in the family Bible in crayon? Wearing the same clothes for two weeks straight? Let them! I’m watching Phil Donahue!”) to this profound observation by Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl: “We have absolutely no control over what happens to us in life, but what we have paramount control over is how we respond to those events.”

 

So yeah, it ain’t an original idea. 

 

But today, I’m flipping the script a bit. I’m figuring out what it would be like to “let them” be …helpful. You see, I handle others’ contributions quite gracelessly on the whole. While I pay lip service to appreciation, “You cleaned the bathroom? How wonderful of you!” deep down I feel both marginalized and insulted (what, you don’t need ME to scrub the toilet? You don’t think I do a good enough job refilling the hand soap dispenser?) 

 

And I go into overdrive at family gatherings at our house. I’m fine (well, OK-ish) when my grown and flown kiddos entertain me in their digs, with food and activities of their choosing. But when we assemble on my turf to celebrate holidays or whatever, I immediately call dibs on making all the most impressive dishes, leaving the dregs for them: “What do you say if I make lamb sausage puffs and lobster dip and roast duck and chocolate mocha cake? If you could just bring some paper napkins, that would be awesome!” 

 

When my sister visited us from Hawaii, in conjunction with a big birthday for Steve, my children insisted on cooking every menu item themselves. I actually “let them.” And you know what? Everything was really delicious. I admired my sons and daughters’ many gifts and talents. And I was able to sit back and relax, glass of wine in hand, free of all the stress surrounding the party preparations. 

 

Just kidding. I was a wreck the whole time. But I DID “let them.” So that counts for something, right?

Probably the most attention our family Bible ever got